Sexually, what do "vanilla sex" and "non-vanilla sex" mean?
Everybody defines these two terms differently. Generally speaking, the idea of vanilla sex is to have sex with the basic ingredients. We’re not talking about kinky sex here – we’re talking about having traditional, everyday sex, oftentimes associated with the missionary position.
Non-vanilla sex is the term used to describe sexual acts which involve kinky fetishes and fantasies. Some people may prefer the term "kinky sex", while others may refer to their kink as something else.
Some also define non-vanilla sex as sex without intercourse. The term is often used to describe other sexual activities, such as cunnilingus (oral sex to the vulva) and fellatio (oral sex to the penis). These activities are not always considered "vanilla" because they involve some form of non-traditional penetration.
The following list includes some other examples of non-vanilla sex activities:
Not everybody is into non-vanilla sex, so it’s a good idea to discuss your kinks with your partner(s). Consent among all parties is important.